If you read the previous post titled "Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life", now you know that your beliefs shape your future and that the next step is to decide what you need to change.
To do that, you need to ask yourself what would make your life better.
In a perfect world, you’d replace all negative beliefs and reset yourself to be happier and more content. In reality, this is work that takes time – so it makes sense to focus on areas that need the most improvement.
What’s your priority? A better job? A better relationship? More confidence? Here’s some tips on how to choose.
Knowing What to Choose
All of us want to live a happy and fulfilled life and as such we are generally willing to work toward the future we want and to put in the time and effort necessary to go after the things we want. And the good news? Even if you don't quite achieve your goals any time soon, the simple fact that you have goals and are working toward them will normally be enough to give your life focus and so help you to feel happy and fulfilled.
The problem then arises though when you realize that you aren't quite sure what it is that you actually want from life. How can you work toward something if you don't know what it is that you need? And how can you be happy if you don't know what it is that brings you happiness?
This is the plight that many of us face and that leaves us drifting directionless and without fulfilment. But the good news is that there are many techniques and strategies to help you to overcome these problems and to get more from life. Here we will look at what some of those are.
What's Bothering You
One way to identify what you need and what makes you happy is to start by identifying what "doesn't" make you happy and most of us have a laundry list of things that are right now playing on our minds. So if you can identify these things that you want to change, suddenly you can see what kind of lifestyle it is that would make you somewhat happier. How can you work toward getting rid of these issues?
Analyze Your Role Models
Another thing you can do is to look at your role models and to think about what it is that you respect about them. Here are people who you clearly think of as having “made it” and who you obviously think are successful, so by mimicking them you can feel that way about yourself in theory. One thing to do here is to look at the similarities between your different role models - what traits do they have in common? Because chances are that these are traits you will really respect.
The Five-Fold Why
The five-fold why is a self-development technique that challenges yourself to ask yourself a question and then follow it up with five whys. This allows you to get to the core of your answer and to learn about yourself in the process. As an example, so what do you want to do? Become a fireman? Why do you want that? To feel like you're helping others? And why do you want that? To get a sense of gratitude? Suddenly you have shed light on your motivations and you are more able to go after the things you want.
Another thing to do is to look into your past. So far of all the things you've achieved and of all the experiences you've had, which mean the most to you? By looking at what brought you fulfillment in the past, you can learn about what might bring you fulfilment in the future…
Once you’ve gone through these exercises and seeing the things you want for yourself, the next question is: why aren’t you there yet?
As we’ve seen already, the answer is almost definitely down to your own beliefs about yourself and about the world. So now you know what you want to accomplish, you can hone in on the beliefs you need to change.
In the next blog post, we'll look at the topic of "letting go".
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